1 Insight • 1 Practice • 1 Reflection
🧠 One idea to sit with
Our brains never stop comparing.
In The Status Game, Will Storr calls it our ‘status detection system’: a constant, background process that constantly scans our surroundings to measure where we stand relative to those around us.
That’s why complete solitude – real silence, no inputs (take off the headphones) – is the only way to step outside the comparison loop and hear yourself without interference.
After my (Eli) divorce, I was convinced that everything fell apart because of me. It wasn’t until I stepped away from my environment on my Solo Retreat that I realized the story I was living in wasn’t the full truth – just the only one available to me from that perspective.
Sometimes, it takes removing yourself to see what’s real and what’s just noise.
✍️ One practice to try
Give yourself 10-15 minutes of actual solitude.
Not a walk with a podcast. Not scrolling your phone. No inputs at all – just you, alone, with whatever comes up.
Solitude doesn't need to be long to be effective.
If you want some structure for that quiet, take our 5-minute reset. It’s a few simple prompts to help you hear yourself more clearly.
❓One question to carry
How often do you truly give yourself the space to be alone?
No podcast or music. No background chatter. Just you.
📝 One quote to remember
"We withdraw not to disappear, but to find another ground from which to see."
📷 One real moment from our own week
Each week, we’ll close with something personal from our lives.
No filter. No fluff. Just a reminder that we’re walking this path right alongside you.
Kyle & Eli’s Moment:
We’ve been asked about this sort of thing a lot lately, so we finally built it.
Reset Together is our new couples retreat curriculum. Same philosophy as the Solo Retreat, just designed for two — structured time to reconnect, get out of logistics mode, and actually talk about what's next.
If that's been on your radar,
→ check it out here.
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See you next Sunday!
-Kyle and Eli
The Weekly Reset is a newsletter that goes out each Sunday. Each edition is simple by design. Just one clear idea, a practice to try, a reflection to sit with, and a glimpse into what we’re learning behind the scenes. It is written by Kyle Nelson and Eli Libby, Co-Founders of The Solo Retreat Company.
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